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This is a whole long conversation, with a glass of wine involved,lol. Enlightening I am sure for those who have not experienced it, entertaining for this of us who have.👏🏼

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It’s kind of a If You Know You Know thing. Thanks for reading/commenting!

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*those

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I never changed my birth name after I got married (this was actually the cause of a huge argument), and since I lived in Austria at the time, there was a whole lot of hassle involved in that choice. In Austria at the time, women weren't required to take their spouse's name, but you were required to have the same last name as each other, which amounted to the same thing (how many men ever consider changing?!). I got away with it only because I was a foreigner on a residency visa, but had to battle the electric company person, who insisted that I couldn't possibly be married since I had a different last name. Hard to explain with only one week of German lessons under my belt.

Supposedly the reason that Louisa May Alcott never married was partly because she could use her writing income to support her family, whereas if she married it would all become the property of her husband. And then there's the whole Social Security issue, with Social Security payout rules having barely changed since they were first written to encourage men to work and women to marry.

I've never heard of MeUndies before, and am very entertained by their selection!

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I need to read more about the SS thing. And yes. MeUndies might be a hair expensive but their undies are excessively comfortable and also fun.

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The Social Security thing is another enraging thing among many. I only found out about some of its more misogynist qualities when my mother remarried and found out that her Social Security would after that be based on her current husband’s income (a musician) rather than my dad’s (an electrical engineer). And not of course on her own income because she worked but had never earned more than either spouse.

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What would happened if you remarried and tried to change “EastKeep”? 🧐🤔

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Sorry, I had to…that’s a bunch of crap seriously. Of my three wives 🤦🏽‍♂️, only one changed her name. Now I can see why!

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Clever!

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